Loss experience

Reflecting on loss…

As I get older, I find myself thinking about loss more often. In recent years, I've also shared more experiences of loss. In fact, I feel like a man of great possessions, because if I have a lot, I can lose a lot. Loss is then linked to possessions. This loss can be a job through dismissal, money after a failed investment, a home during a divorce, and a friend through death. Someone also experiences loss if they can no longer do something due to old age, illness, or an accident.

My experience is that when loss is shared, it feels more bearable. I do this sharing by praying to Mary and by talking about loss with friends. I only share when I feel it is safe to do so. Sharing experiences of loss helps me not only to bear what has been lost, but also to give it a place in my life. In this sharing, I don't want to convey a message or ask questions, but rather to tell my experiences. The moment needs to be right for it, and to achieve that, I first listen to the context I am in. In this way, I let the other person step into my life for a moment, and this also happens in reverse.

I share my experiences of loss with Mary, for example, in a church building, while walking, and at home when standing, kneeling, or sitting before an image of Our Lady. Sharing with Her in silence brings healing.

Of the lost, only memories return. Sharing loss experiences makes thoughts more bearable. Reflecting on loss…